Parents’ ideas

  • Read/share books about transition with your children’s
  • Take pics and/or make a video on the way to school
  • If they are old enough give them a camera so that they can do it themselves
  • Show them and share pics and other details about the new place you are moving
  • Keep in touch with friends via WhatsApp and/or Skype and emails
  • Talking about transition/moving honestly and when possible well in advance ( when is not possible try to “stretch” the process as much as possible
  • Be honest and talk about the challenges they might face
  • Acknowledge that no matter what you do, you might not be 100% prepared
  • Grieving is a process, it might be long, we might live it in very different way. Try to be respectful of the specific way the other members of the family will face it
  • We are all different ( child/person )so we all have a different way to face transition/grief. Allow yourself and your children to express their feelings about it, try to listen to them in an active way and talk to them about it
  • Allow them to be sad and allow yourself to be sad ( learn with them and teach them to name emotions, to accept them and to talk about it )
  • Always encourage children to express themselves in any way they choose ( talking, drawing, painting, writing )
  • Before you pack allow them to choose some ( 3? A box? This is up to you ) things/toys they want to keep. Let them keep those even if they have not been using those for ages ( an old teddy bear )
  • Allow them to choose top 3 things to do before they move ( favorite ice-cream place, restaurant, day trip, activities and so on )
  • When you are in the new place keep the memories alive ( pics, talking about friend s and experience you had in the previous posting/place )
  • Make a chart with two columns with things you might be happy or sad and fill it up with the whole family ( each of you having his own and then discuss similarities and differences )
  • On arrival in a new place help and support your children in making new friends ( play dates )
  • Remember that children will learn from your example, not from what you say